Sister, the I said,
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Children learn also that adults can make mistakes too and be accountable for them, what forgiveness is, they learn from how you handle setbacks and how to make their own judgements about what is right and wrong, and it can be healthy to question authority sometimes.
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Yes I, what the I said reminded I of another important thing, that is to admit to your child that you are wrong, when you are wrong. Too often people let pride and image get in the way of doing that. This can happen, for example, if a parent is disciplining a child and throughout the process they realize they were wrong, at least about some things, or especially if the child points out that they are wrong. Instead of admitting the wrong, they may redirect or use other means to avoid the fact.
One thing that would deter a parent from admitting wrong is that it can sometimes make a child get arrogant or bold in the argument. This is especially true when a person first tries to deal with their children this way, because it is a new thing for the child to have this opportunity to sight their parent admitting they are wrong. If a person can be this way from the start, it is better, but it can be introduced at any time. Sometimes it is good to let your child have their "I told you so" moment in those situations, but the child must be made to Iverstand that sometimes they will not have their "I told you so" moment and will have to be satisfied with only the admission of wrong. A parent can explain the ground rules around it, for example for the child to humble themselves when being disciplined at times when people outside the family are around.
Here is a Reasoning that I have made before that also applies to a relationship between parent and child, especially as the child becomes older.
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Another thing to remember is that it would be beneficial for you and the person to have an agreement that if one of you brings up a problem about the other, then the other shouldn't bring up a counter-problem at that time. Deal with the problem at hand, and at another time (preferably on another day) the other person can bring up a problem to discuss. Otherwise, problem calls out problem that calls out problem and argument can turn into fight.
And when they speak about a problem, first think about what has been said and put yourself in their shoes, and then react, and they should do the same if you bring up a problem. A few seconds of thinking can bring a very different response and usually a better one. Also, when one of you brings up a problem, try to bring it up at the right time. In the heat of the moment, bringing up a problem will go on deaf ears and it will be useless. But if a person waits a little, when they bring up the problem the other person will be more likely to at least listen.
And unless it is absolutely necessary, the I them shouldn't bring up a problem in front of others because that will probably cause the accused embarrasment and they will likely try to defend, and it is also more likely to become a competition instead of a reasoning. Always look for usefulness, discuss problems in a manner that will fix them, instead of way that will cause more problems.
Man and Woman
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