King and Queen can come together in peace and harmony. Before I met I Empress I asked Jah to send I a Woman that will be strong and help I in I trod. When Jah send I the Empress I asked for I gave Thanks to the Most High Jah RasTafarI Haile Selassie I.
We have been together since 1996 and married since 2004. We have never had a serious fight, we argue a little from time to time, but it is never that serious.
The first step is the most important. Ask Jah for a Man that will be good and strong for you and help you in your trod.
Next you have to be very observant when you meet a man. Pay attention to what he says and does and don't let things slip by or allow yourself to be blinded. The first man that comes your way after you ask Jah may not be the right man, or he may be. That is why it is so important to observe and study and be honest with yourself so you know if he is the Right Man or the wrong man.
A person doesn't have to be perfect to be the right man, but make sure who you choose is somebody you will be happy with even if they don't get any better than they already are. The reason I say that is because if you choose a man like that, than he will likely be a man that will get better. But if you don't choose a man like that, then there is a high chance that he will stay the same or get worse.
Another thing to remember is that it would be beneficial for you and the man to have an agreement that if one of you brings up a problem about the other, than the other shouldn't bring up a counter-problem at that time. Deal with the problem at hand, and at another time (preferably on another day) the other person can bring up a problem to discuss. Otherwise, problem calls out problem that calls out problem and argument can turn into fight.
And when your man speaks about a problem, first think about what has been said and put yourself in his shoes, and then react, and he should do the same if you bring up a problem. A few seconds of thinking can bring a very different response and usually a better one. Also, when one of you brings up a problem, try to bring it up at the right time. In the heat of the moment, bringing up a problem will go on deaf ears and it will be useless. But if a person waits a little, when they bring up the problem the other person will be more likely to at least listen.
And unless it is absolutely necessary, the I them shouldn't bring up a problem in front of others because that will probably cause the accused embarrasment and they will likely try to defend, and it is also more likely to become a competition instead of a reasoning. Always look for usefulness, discuss problems in a manner that will fix them, instead of way that will cause more problems.
Haile Selassie I