Well, Sis Ten, give thanks for sharing your experiences. But on reading your post, i cant help but ask, dont you think what you say only underscores what i already said about physical punishment after a certain age doesnt have any thing but a negative effect?
If you notice the bible quotes i put up, they are all about a parent punishing a child, if there is a bible verse that says "spare not the rod on thy brethren", then i havent seen it.
I pray that i am not speaking out of turn by reasoning about what is really your personal space, your family, but i hope you will permit i to comment on the two examples that the i gave.
Concerning the aunt who got beaten for wearing something or going somewhere, i, as a Ras, have to burn fyah on that, and i feel that all should. That is no different than what Christ already taught, and i really really doubt that all those applying the beating didnt have their own sins that they wouldnt want anyone to beat them for.
And this only strengthens the idea that physical punishmeant should only be between a child and a parent or guardian. Because, yes, every parent has his/her own sins too, but a parent has the full right to apply physical correction until a certain age, while a friend or neighbour or even brethren has no right to lay a finger on anyone.
Now, as for the way your father used to apply punishment by the hands of your brothers, i have to strongly disagree with that. I am not trying to say anything about the parenting skills of your parents, but just on this particular point,have to disagree
I dont know how to explain this but, i feel that it is very important that, at least during childhood, brothers and sisters in a house should be able to keep a "us against them" mentality when it comes to recieving punishment from their parents. And i feel that it is wrong of a parent to use tactics such as your fathers, which is really nothing else than a divide and conquer strategy.
Yes i, that goes against everything of how i was raised. A child should never be singled out. A child should never have any fear of his/her own siblings. A child should be able, as i was, to share his/her experiences of punishment with his/her siblings. That is one of the greatest things to bring siblings closer to each other. To this day, i and i brothers and sisters laugh about all the times that we got beaten together, who got the worse beatings, who had the most lenient punishments, the places we used to hide to escape punishment, the lies we used to tell for the sake of protecting a brother or a sister from recieving punishment.
But i have to repeat, i totally disagree with the idea of applying physical correction to a youth after a certain age. I myself had no shortage of beatings as a child, but when i reached about 15 or 16 years old, that completely stopped. After that no one could touch i, not i parents or anyone else. I would say, once the child grows up to the level that he/she knows the direct consequences of his/her actions, then the time of beatings has ended. Every child has his/her time to put aside his/her childish ways, and every parent should be attentive enough of their child to realize when that time comes
Sis Ten, i really feel a way about speaking on your family, i pray the i wont hold it against i.
But the i said "we raise our children because tomorrow they will use those same methods to correct each other and their children as well."
And that is the reason why i am writing this even though i am uncertain if i will offend you in anyway , ini have to reason this things out, nothing more important than the raising of ini children.
Yes the children are the men and women of tomorrow, so ini must be the best parents ini can be today.
Blessed Love
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